How to end a relationship on a good note

How to end a relationship on a good note

Most of us know that at least in real life, happily ever after doesn’t always mean you don’t end up alone.

While love and partnership are a quest for many of us, there can be many trials and errors along the way.

Some of us find ourselves at the end of a relationship for more straightforward reasons like betrayal and toxicity, but others could simply just grow apart.

I know, it isn’t very easy.

And all breakups have one thing in common—in some way or another, they always suck.

While we can’t take away the entire mess of parting ways, we thought we could at least help you with one thing—tips on how you can end a relationship on a good note, at least between the two of you that still care about each other.

Do it in person
Confrontation is difficult and uncomfortable but you owe it to yourself and your partner to do it face to face. This allows for transparency and conversation. It’s also a mature way to share the burden and show respect towards each other.

Recognise that it’s going to suck
For most people with a conscience, sharing intimate time with someone, however short or long, holds value. Whether you’re facilitating the breakup or getting broken up, it’s important to acknowledge the consequential bummer that will come with ending the partnership, even if it is the right thing to do.

Be honest but don’t attack
While it’s easy to shut down during the process, we encourage you to express your feelings. But be kind, try not to use the opportunity to play the blame game or use the time to criticise the other. Focus on expressing your own thoughts and feelings.

Be empathetic
Emotions will be running high and regardless of how to put together both of you are trying to be, there are chances of losing your cool. That’s ok. Be kind towards each other’s reactions. You owe it to each other.

Give yourself time to grieve
You will want to move on, you’ll want to act impulsively. You’ll want to be okay.
And you will. But it takes time.
Be extra kind to yourself, breakups are hard, there are no two ways about it.

And while we can’t promise the actual outcome, we know you’re doing your best. You are not alone and happier days will appear for you again.
With or without someone else.

Writer: Shanaya Tata